Today I was reminded of the violence that I saw at home growing up.
My parents both loved me, and while my father did not care to contact me when I was over the age of 20, I am grateful to what he taught me as a child.
He also taught me how not to be.
He used to hit my mother, and it was always her fault. My children know that I do not like violence at home, and when younger, they quickly learned not to blame the person they hit for hitting them.